7 Crucial Tips On How High School Teens Can Become Leaders
March 30, 2009
As a teenager, I KNOW how hard it is to feel like you ‘fit in’ during high school, college or university. That’s why I’ve prepared this brief list of tips on how to lead as a young person. Most of the time, teenagers like myself just want to ‘fit in’ and go unnoticed. This is has become typical because of the old Chinese proverb ‘The nail that sticks out gets hammered’. To be different is to be a target in many high schools.
What I love about teenager hood is that in our later years, we get to throw away this way of looking at life, and truly step out and live our lives the way we want to. There is however a solution for those still at high school however – to become a team leader, not a target. Read on to find out how.
1. Have a think about how you live your day to day life. What things do you hate doing, but end up doing anyway? Do you hate going to a certain person’s house, but simply have to because everyone else is going? Do you smoke but slightly regret starting? For me, it was hanging out with a certain ‘popular’ individual who did nothing but insult everyone in their company. This really annoyed me, but noone else seemed to mind. They were probably just better at hiding it than me.
2. Show assertiveness. You don’t have to be a very confident person to show assertiveness. Confidence is a characteristic, being assertive is simply a technique you can learn. Rephrase soft and weak phrases to strong sounding ones. “Could you just pass me my pen?” is only asking someone to taunt back “No” just to annoy or upset you. Instead, try “[Name], pass me that pen” in whatever tone comes naturally. By not even phrasing it as a question, the other person will be less likely to challenge you. To reiterate, this isn’t about confidence, it’s simply behaviour that you have the power to modify.
3. Don’t be different for the sake of it. Individuality is a brilliant thing, but don’t walk against trends simply ‘because’. Many so-called ‘non-conformists’ are actually part of a very clear, very obvious group of ‘non-conformists’, and simply conform to their views instead. They’re as much of a follower as everyone else, they simply follow the complete opposite to everyone else. So my point is this. Don’t follow every trend because you have to, and on the flipside, don’t hate every trend just because it’s a fad. Do what *you* want, ignore trends completely. If you want to improve your leadership for teens, you have to walk to the beat of your own drum. 
4. Don’t think ‘What if it went wrong?’, think ‘What if it went RIGHT’
5. Don’t back down. Make clear decisions to do what you want to do. Don’t let comment or opinions from others make you re-think and possibly back down. As SOON as they see that you’ve given up, or changed your habit to ‘fit in’, they know they can manipulate you in the future.
6. Try and roughly write down compliments you have received as a result of being a team leader. Whether someone thanked you for helping them get out of a situation they really didn’t want to be in, or someone admiring your ‘different’ clothes, try and write it down in a tiny book. This book can be thought of as a personal ego-booster, and you can read it when you’re feeling down, or need the courage to step up and stand out of the crowd and employ leadership.
7. My final tip may sound obscure. It’s ‘DO IT’. By this, I am begging you to actually consider using the techniques above properly. It’s all too easy to skim over an article such as this and make a half hearted attempt at applying it in practice, only to see it fail. What I want you to do, is get out a pen and paper or open a Word Document, and write down numbers 1-6. For each number, I’d like you to write how you’re actually going to use this advice in real life.
Think about:
Which situations had you wished you had applied this tip?
Do you anticipate that opportunity will come round again in the near future?
How are you going to deal with the situation differently this time?
It will empower you and excite you as your action plan takes form. Finally you are actually going to do something about feeling like a sheep or a follower, and will finally be able to manage to bump yourself up a notch on the social hierarchy.
Leadership for teens is what I call the activity of having a look at yourself once you feel that you’ve put these plans into action and have started making a difference. Boost your leadership and continually strive to improve your influence by reading articles on a leadership blog, such as mine below.
And finally, you’ll notice that none of these leadership tips involve following a certain fashion, mixing with a certain type of people, or liking a certain type of music. This is because these really aren’t necessary. You don’t lead by being identical to everyone else. For every area; fashion, music, looks, intelligence; I know somebody who is extremely different, *but still popular*. It is these people who I have learnt from. These individuals show that being different AND popular is the greatest place you can be, and they have far more fun than everyone else.
Have fun being a leader, and hopefully soon you’ll be doing leadership management yourself!
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April 8th, 2009 at 1:54 am
nice article
April 25th, 2009 at 11:34 pm
exactly what i was looking for, an article on leadership.
May 1st, 2009 at 12:53 am
Teens should be taught how to be an effective leaders at an early age so that when they grow old he will not depart from it.
May 2nd, 2009 at 6:13 am
great article
May 7th, 2009 at 7:58 am
Great ledership for teens article
May 11th, 2009 at 8:03 pm
I think every people have some quality in some field to work as a team. But Team leadership is something that can’t be taught it is the strength of other person and weakness in another. So a person can be good team member but can’t be a good team lead
May 14th, 2009 at 5:09 am
Great Post , Thanks for sharing
May 14th, 2009 at 10:15 am
Excellent! Thanks.
May 19th, 2009 at 12:59 pm
Great article!Will send to e-mail it to my nephew !
May 24th, 2009 at 2:16 pm
This is a geat blog on leadership and allow others to gain the courage to lead their life in the direction they want. I think the last step of just doing what you want to do is important. Too many times, as a teenager, I get stuck in the planning phase, and I never carry out my goals. Now, I write out every action step I need to take and just do it. It has worked!
June 3rd, 2009 at 10:43 am
informative post.
This points are of great help to me.
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June 4th, 2009 at 1:58 am
Cool!
June 15th, 2009 at 10:50 am
Thanks for the leadership tips .. I’m just 15, and this is my start from being a teenager ..
June 23rd, 2009 at 6:37 am
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July 5th, 2009 at 4:08 pm
It is possible for anybody to lead but it is through his efficiency as a leader that makes him stand out. Hopefully a lot of teens will be encouraged to stand up for what they believe in and not just be blind followers.
July 8th, 2009 at 7:05 am
# 7: DO IT.
I really agree with this statement. Just do it. And you’ll see what you will be. =)
July 21st, 2009 at 5:17 pm
I recommend this post to all high school students who wants to be a leader. This is a must read. Anyway, thanks for the effort.
July 30th, 2009 at 9:57 pm
Most of them are printed on one wall inside of my classroom!
July 31st, 2009 at 7:07 am
This is a must read information for high school students dreaming to be a leader. I am sure it will help them.
July 31st, 2009 at 2:32 pm
Some great tips there. How have you used them in your own life?
August 21st, 2009 at 9:14 am
In a team there are so many member but there is only one leader……….
A person can be good team member but can’t be a good team leader.
Thanks for the leadership tips.
August 22nd, 2009 at 1:11 pm
Joining groups with same views will make a student a good leader.
September 15th, 2009 at 7:49 pm
This is an interesting article. You’re absolutely right, most kids try so hard just to fit in and the ones that do become the leaders of the pack are just blessed with leadership qualities. But I guess leadership can be taught, to some extent.
September 16th, 2009 at 6:31 pm
I wanted to be a leader when i was in high school and i did it. I recommend this post to students who also have the same goal.
September 24th, 2009 at 5:40 pm
really nice article, nice tips to follow
October 4th, 2009 at 5:19 am
It seems to me you live your life like a candle in the wind…. never knowing who to run to when the rain set in. I would of liked to known you when I was just as a kid, the candle burned out long before the legend never did. Kind words, kind words
October 12th, 2009 at 12:27 am
Maybe they should give leadership-trainings on high-school.
October 12th, 2009 at 12:29 am
I’m not sure if all teenagers would like to attend leadershipt trainings in High-School. Most of them barely come clear with themselves.
October 15th, 2009 at 10:52 am
Nice and impressive post you remind my child hood thanks a lot for sharing this unique information.
October 21st, 2009 at 2:41 pm
Great post for the teens. This is helpful to the teens especially teens are in the stage learning stage.
October 26th, 2009 at 10:12 pm
wow my memory just went all the way back to my highschool years .. they were the best … beautiful moments btw great tips it would of been helpful if i had them my first year
October 30th, 2009 at 11:12 am
An excellent blog post! The internet would be a better place if people could write as well as you. Keep it up.
November 8th, 2009 at 7:32 am
For my personal perspective, train our child to become future leader is a must and I do not want my child always just accept what other said. This is a good guides for us and I’ll definitely refer back to this article when I need it.
November 15th, 2009 at 4:55 pm
I think being a teenager is one of the most critical times in a person’s life, and becoming a good adult credits much from the parent’s guide and support.
November 24th, 2009 at 12:49 pm
Good luck and hang in there — this can be difficult, but it can also be a great experience if you work at it!
November 26th, 2009 at 1:56 am
down to earth simp;e rules are the most difficult to follow. great article this is what i was looking for thamks
November 27th, 2009 at 3:57 pm
thats really great information for all the highschool teens.. i remember back when i was in high school.. really good years . unforgetable.. i hope this info gets to some of them.
December 4th, 2009 at 8:40 am
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December 9th, 2009 at 4:43 am
This is a very helpful article especially to teenagers of today who are worried or afraid on taking on leadership roles. Anyone can be a leader.
They just need to be guided and exposed on how to become one.
December 10th, 2009 at 3:42 pm
It is really great to see tips on how to encourage teens to embrace leadership qualities. Many people do not realize that leadership training can start at a very early age. Often the best business leaders exhibited leadership characteristics all throughout their life.
December 16th, 2009 at 4:12 pm
One of the most important characteristics in society today is the gift of service. A leader must serve his people, not being selfish and work on a team with a group. If the leader sets the example and performs the task this would encourages its followers.
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December 22nd, 2009 at 3:35 am
It’s interesting how much about assertiveness can be taught – lowering your voice, using ‘strong’ (not weak) language, making eye contact.
December 22nd, 2009 at 4:15 pm
Hopefully a lot of teens will be encouraged to stand up for what they believe in and not just be blind followers.
February 6th, 2010 at 3:18 am
This is an important topic, because it’s often at that age that people learn how to be true leaders.
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